tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-50273810662023478.post696846775936525414..comments2012-05-03T19:10:09.191-07:00Comments on Tangled Skein: Who Have I Become?Sarasaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03356632706986271303noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-50273810662023478.post-24939680706698668812012-03-28T22:39:10.710-07:002012-03-28T22:39:10.710-07:00In all fairness, my sister lives nearly 400 miles ...In all fairness, my sister lives nearly 400 miles away and has a family of six. I understand her inability to help. My brothers live much closer, but because I have always been the fixer, they do not have the tools to deal with our mom. My youngest older brother was supposed to have her move in with him eventually, but he ended up moving in with our oldest brother and now there is no room. <br />Jero is a tremendous support. Without that man I do not think my sanity would still be intact. He helps me to find humor in our life every day, and to see that though I am exhausted, so many have it so much worse. <br />I so appreciate your supportive comments, you have no idea. It's a tremendous relief to hear those things from someone who does not "know" me and who is not forced to like me. Ha!Sarasaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03356632706986271303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-50273810662023478.post-22945468956381744382012-03-28T06:10:08.206-07:002012-03-28T06:10:08.206-07:00(I totally missed this post when I was in the othe...(I totally missed this post when I was in the other day. Sorry)<br /><br />You are NOT a bad person! I once told a friend that I resented...something I don't remember...that I had to do for someone I loved, and the look in her face - like how dare I resent doing that! I never say things like that out loud. But how can you not feel the weight of a burden like that when you are carrying it all your own?<br /><br />I'm forced to ask: where's your sister in all of this? A local friend of mine took in her mother when she had Alzheimers and - what's that one that effects your bowel system? That, too. Her sister stayed in Connecticut, and then wanted to see receipts for all the expenses my friend paid for health-care for their mother! Didn't lift a finger. Oh, that made me mad.<br /><br />Your feelings are your feelings. You didn't ask to be angry at your mother, you just are. Sometimes owning the emotion helps, I think.<br /><br />You talk about your mom's depression and that she doesn't see her kids and grandkids as worth living for. I've actually been there, where I didn't care how my family would react: I just wanted a way out. Fortunately I didn't take that way out, and now I know I never would, because I have recognized how I would hurt them. But it is a tough place. I don't have any advice for anyone trying to get through it.<br /><br />I hope someone steps in to help you. Even just to give you a day off or something.<br /><br />We love you even when you think you are being unlovable!Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06870283055927616591noreply@blogger.com